Boodaism
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2023
May
30 Why You Should Date Your Friends
2022
July
5 What I Wish ISTA Would Say About Baba Dez
June
17 A World Without Politics
2021
April
5 This is why I don’t believe you
February
28 Life Is Already Full
January
15 How the Military Prepared Me to Live in Community
2020
November
21 Boundaries Can Heal When Love Cannot
October
14 Saying Sorry Is a Privilege
September
30 Spiritual Gaslighting: Why Sexual Predators Love Tantra
24 A Practical Guide to Taking Back Your Power from Social Media
15 You Don’t Owe Me Your Body, I Don’t Owe You My Heart
April
8 Stop Expecting Life to Be Awesome and It Will Be
March
31 Uncertainty in the Age of Coronavirus
2019
November
6 A Pragmatic Guide to Trust
June
2 We Fucking Need Each Other
May
22 I miss blogs.
15 You Can’t Be Nice to a Narcissist
January
2 Back in the Saddle: 2018 Annual Review
2018
September
21 Tell the Truth
August
1 Before You Read ‘The Way of the Superior Man’ Read This
July
4 The Surprising Foundation of Every Great Relationship
June
20 The Day Life Coaches Replaced Best Friends
13 To my Overachieving Friends, Whom I Love Dearly [Poem]
6 Art Isn’t Dead, We Are
May
30 What It Means To “Leave Someone Better Than You Found Them”
16 Everyone Believes in God
2 You Don’t Have Time for Art [Poem]
April
25 Loving All The Parts
18 Why Nerds Are Happier
11 The Difference Between Having Needs & Being Needy
4 2018 Ultra-Light Travel Guide: My Gear & Mindset
March
28 The Reason It’s So Hard To Find Happy Relationships on Dating Apps
21 The Problem with Liberalism (From A Liberal’s Perspective)
14 17 Creative Ways To Be Lonely
7 How Modern Marriage Is Making Us Lonely
February
28 You’re Not Trying To Debate, You’re Just Being a Dick
21 Stop Looking for “The One” and Do This Instead
7 State Change vs Transformation
January
31 The President America Needs, Not the One It Wants
24 Why Sex Workers Should Replace Dating Coaches
17 I Want You To Like Me [Poem]
10 5 Simple Ways to Have More Intimacy with your Friends
3 On Public Shaming and the Death of Civilized Discourse
2017
December
27 Consequences Create Motivation: 2017 Annual Review
20 The 10 Kinds of People Who Leave Annoying Comments on Facebook
13 Why Narcissists Love Spiritual Communities
6 7 Ways I Use Minimalism On My iPhone
November
29 5 Mistakes People Make When Writing On the Internet
22 Dear Men in Glass Houses
15 I Don’t Care You Got Engaged
8 The Ten Commandments of Boodaism
1 The Key to a Peaceful Divorce
October
25 Most People Are Stupid (What George Carlin Taught Me About Happiness)
18 Just Feel the Pain
11 The Confronting Reason You Haven’t Been Able to Do That Thing You’ve Been Wanting to Do for a While
4 It’s Okay to End a Good Relationship
August
3 I’m Cycling from Vancouver to San Diego [2-Month Sabbatical]
July
26 You Can Always Walk Away
19 Relationships Are Really Really Really Really Really Fucking Important
12 Dating Beyond Gender
5 I Wish We Would Stop Saying “You Can Have It All”
June
28 I Would Fall In Love With My Ex-Wife Again In A Heartbeat
21 What I Believe Makes America Great
14 The Self-Righteousness of Minimalism and Vagabonding
7 The Magic of Slowing Down
May
31 The Subtle Shift That Causes Friction in Long-Term Relationships
24 A Minimalist Love Song [Song]
17 You’re Busy Because You’re Afraid to Change Your Life
10 A Religion of One [Poem]
3 Why Men Shouldn’t Be Threatened by Feminism
April
26 Why Nuanced Conversation About Consent Is So Hard
19 5 Awesome Fucking Reasons Straight Men Should Take It Up The Ass
12 Why I Love and Hate Being Friends with Entrepreneurs
5 An Ode to Space [Poem]
March
29 How To Transform Jealousy Into Excitement
22 In Defense of Millennials
15 The Most Un-Romantic Marriage Advice Ever
8 The World Is Inside You [Poem]
1 You’re Not a Bad Person, You Just Have Great Taste
February
22 I’m Triggered That You’re Triggered
15 4 Relationship Lessons From 4 Years of Marriage
8 Why Understanding Privilege is Essential to True Consent
1 Why Tantra and Polyamory Don’t Mix
January
25 The Fetish of Consistency
18 How To Travel Indefinitely With A Normal Backpack
11 The Purpose of My Travels
4 I’m Not Changing a Damn Thing in 2017
2016
December
28 2016 Annual Review
21 A Minimalist Christmas Poem
14 The Unexpected Reason I Can Afford an Adventurous Life
7 5 Reasons a Feminist Is Sexy
November
30 It’s Not Okay To Be Silent Anymore
23 I’m Afraid of Being Gay
16 Art is Disagreement
9 On Being A Man [Poem]
2 The Hardest Thing About Professional Blogging
October
26 I Promise, It’s Not Lame to Ask A Woman for Permission
19 Traveling Sucks Too
12 Communication Is My Fetish
5 What Music Is Really About
September
28 This Is For Me
21 In Defense of Pick Up Artists
14 The One Question No One Asks On A Date (But Should)
7 Loneliness Is My Spiritual Practice
August
31 Fighting Against Something Also Supports It
24 There’s No Such Thing as a Failed Relationship
17 You’re Perfect Just the Way You Aren’t
10 How I Define a Successful Relationship
3 Don’t Follow Your Heart
July
27 We’re Unhappy Because We Try to Win a Shitty Game
20 I’m Afraid of My Truth
13 Love + Drugs
6 On Personal Branding and the Addiction to Self-Importance
June
29 My Wife Is Not My Therapist
22 Yes I Would Be A Good Dad, and No I Don’t Want To Have Kids
15 Insecurity as a Gateway to Connection
8 The Death and Rebirth of My Marriage
1 Ego Makes Intimacy Possible
May
25 Breaking the Gender Code
18 This is Me, This is Enough
4 How the Manifesting Generation is Collectively Killing Our Self-Esteem
April
27 Here’s a New Way to Look at Life Purpose
20 5 Things I Wish They Told Me When I Started Life Coaching
13 Bernie Is My Girl
6 Lonely Is The New Normal
March
30 I Hope You Give Up On Love
23 How Your Addictions Can Be Good for Productivity
16 Why Most Relationship Experts Are Completely Wrong About Polyamory
9 Your Life Is Always on the Right Track
2 I’m Afraid My Wife Will Die
February
3 February Sabbatical: Why I’m Taking One Month Off
January
27 The Real Reason People Join the Military and Go To War
20 The Simple Key To Relaxation
13 The Secret to Happy Relationships I Learned From Jesus
6 Why Artists Fail, Go Broke and Die Unfulfilled
2015
December
28 30 Ridiculously Simple Ways To Make Your Life Better
21 2015 Annual Review
14 How To Get a $65,000 Loan Back From Your Friend
7 5 Simple Questions To Find Creative Work You Love
November
30 Jesus Loves Orgasms
23 You Don’t Need To Save The World To Feel Like You Made A Difference
16 I’m Struggling Not To Sell Out
9 Having an Intention vs Needing a Strategy
2 What I Mean When I Say I’m in an Open Relationship
October
26 The Inconvenient Truth About Legacy
19 How To Find Your Passion Instantly
12 Running Out Of Money As An Adventure
5 Virtual Exchange Program: Geography Class for the 21st Century
September
28 All Emotions Are Created Equal
21 What To Do When I Die
14 How Indulging Perfectionism Makes Me A Better Writer
7 All Perspectives Are True
August
31 Life Is A Carnival of Experience
24 Whatever You Do With Your Life Is Wonderful
17 Maybe You’re Not So Fucking Special
10 Are You Really In Control of Your Life?
3 A Goal Is Something You Don’t Want To Do
July
27 The Most Frustrating and Beautiful Day of My Life
20 On Breaking Up
13 You Don’t Want It Bad Enough, and That’s Okay
6 4 Habits of Highly Effective People Who Are Never Satisfied
June
29 How To Touch Someone’s Heart
22 The Benefits of Comfort and Security for a Creative Life
15 An Encyclopedia Contains No Wisdom
8 All Affirmations Are False
May
25 The Audacity of Giving Yourself Permission
18 Doing Your Best, Even When It Sucks
11 On Art and Making Money
7 Love is Either a Daring Adventure or Nothing At All
4 The Joy of Missing My Wife
April
27 On Earthquakes and Feeling Helpless
20 The Real Difference Between Traveling and Vacationing
13 The Commodification of People
6 The Beauty of Distraction-Free Reading
March
30 Personality as a Substitute for Courage
23 My Wife Talks to Elephants
16 Gurus Are Just Like You
9 You Don’t Need To Figure Out Where Your Life Is Going
2 Why I’m Never Ever Buying a House Again
February
23 I Don’t Own My Wife
16 Why Athletes Make Terrible Husbands
9 My Life in Four Minutes
2 The Sexiest Thing You Can Do For A Lover In Bed
January
26 The Wisdom of Paula
19 Please Stop Believing People Who Say You Are Fucked Up
12 Create, Ship, Repeat
7 Hail To The King
5 3 Things I Wish People Knew About Open Relationships
2014
Everyone Has Money Problems (And Why That’s Reassuring)
What If Every Day Was Sunday?
On Writing
3 Rules Not to Live By
When It Might Be Time To Fire Your Therapist
Your Personality Is Bullshit
6 Things I Realized About The Naval Academy After I Got Out
Please Believe In Me
My Relationship Sucks, and So Does Yours (Sometimes)
Stay on the Train
Being Married is Killing My Relationship
The Peculiar Reason That Men (and Women) Are Afraid Of Deep Relationships
Why Sex Educators Struggle To Talk About Money
My Wife is a Terrible Piano Player
2013
7 Things Musicians Wish Club & Bar Owners Knew
The Profound Importance of Courage
Everything I Write Is Bullshit
The Biggest Myth About Dating
How Allowing Yourself To Feel Horrible Might Change Your Life
Doing What You Love Won’t Make You Happy
The Beauty of Trial and Error
3 Myths About Dating at The Naval Academy
2012
The Secret to Having Amazing Hands
Letter from My Unborn Son
The Paradox of Happiness
On Being Superman
Understanding Your Masculine and Feminine Side
The Bad Habit I Took Away from the Naval Academy
Why You Need to Struggle
A Letter to Parents on Christmas
2011
The Secret to Getting More Tips and Happiness in the Service Industry
38 Things I Wish They Told Me at The Naval Academy
What I’ve Learned About Happiness
1982
October
10 This World, Again?