Love Is Either A Daring Adventure or Nothing At All

May 7, 2015

You have to be willing to get your heart broken to fall in love.

If romance is a tree, the relationships we want are at the end of the branches, where you might fall, because it’s not safe.

If life is like a carnival, love is the scariest ride. It has a line of eager thrill seekers, and they all know it could be the best ride of their life, or it could scare them to death. Maybe even literally, to death.

There are other rides, and they are pleasantly predictable, for people who want a quick thrill but nothing too out of control. Which line do you get in?

I spent most of my life being afraid to fall in love. I thought I would lose my freedom or get trapped in a relationship I didn’t want to be in. So I held back. Then I read a book called The Path to Love and Deepak Chopra said something that really scared me. He said love is unpredictable.

I realized that if I wanted to be in love, I would have to let go of the outcome.

I think we are mostly lying to ourselves when it comes to love. We say we are looking for a real relationship, but we don’t put anything at risk. We hold out for the right time, the right person, the right circumstances, the right moon cycle, the right everything, and it’s a façade.

It’s a façade because we’re really just scared. We are scared of letting go. We aren’t willing to let love be a wild adventure, so we end up on the sidelines, justifying to others the reasons we aren’t on the field and criticizing those who are.

If you want to fall in love, you have to let go of how you think it should be. You have to let go of your formula, let go of your preferences, let go of your illusion of control. 

You have to take risks.

Because love is either a daring adventure — or nothing at all.


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