The Sexiest Thing You Can Do For Your Lover In Bed

February 2, 2015


Hang on a second…

Before we begin, do this with me. Take a deep breath in, then let it out as slow as you can.

Go ahead, I’ll be right here. Let it take a while.

Now relax your shoulders. Take your hands away from the computer while you read this. You can use them to scroll down but then relax your arms again. Shake them out. Feels good, right?

Now let’s slow down even more.

What does it smell like where you are right now? Close your eyes and be with your senses. Don’t open your eyes until you can name what it smells like. Go ahead.

Now run your tongue along the inside of your mouth and discover what tastes are inside your mouth right now. What does your tongue feel like as it runs along the inside of your lips? Right now, explore the taste and sensation inside your mouth.

Take a deep breath, and this time as you let the air out ever so slowly notice the sounds in your space right now. Close your eyes and be with three different noises before you open your eyes again. Keep breathing slowly.

Relax into the gentle anticipation of the next moment.

This is where we meet.
This is where we effortlessly discover the love that is already made.

It’s not a technique, it’s not a skill, it’s the gift of bringing us home to ourselves.

And over.
And over.
And over again.

Let go of your day.
Let go of your thoughts.
Let go of your feelings.

Come back home.
And before we touch, before we kiss, do this.


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