Hello there!

You’ve arrived here at this page because someone invited you to join my play party community. If you haven’t spoken to me (Dave) or gotten a “green light” to join this community, please reach out first, you may be here prematurely. You can reach me at 617-721-2007.

Please take the time to read this whole page, and if you have any questions you can email me at davebooda@gmail.com. Thanks for reading, if you need anything please don’t hesitate to ask.

~ Dave

Below is the form to be added to the email list for these parties. I don’t use social media for the parties, so the only way to hear about them is via this email list or through the Telegram announcement group.

Leave this field empty if you’re human:

In an attempt to not use Facebook, I use the app Telegram to give folks a way to digitally gather together before and after parties. It’s also an easy way for me to make announcements and send important info.

I recommend downloading the app (if you haven’t already) and then joining the two groups (play party lounge & announcement group). If you just want to be notified via the email list, that’s totally okay! I understand the pain of having more messaging apps.

Telegram Play Party Lounge:
https://boodaism.com/telegram-lounge

Telegram Announcement Group (only I can post, for essential annoucements only):
https://boodaism.com/telegram-announcements

It’s good to get at least one party under your belt before you invite others, but if that’s happened and you have a friend or two you’d like to bring with you to the next party, we totally welcome that! Here’s the process:

1 Ask yourself “would you vouch for this person”? Keep in mind that at the end of the day, this is a community of friends and it’s not a public service.

2 If the answer is “yes, I would vouch for them”, tell them about the next party (especially the date) and ask if they would like to join you.

3 If they would like to join, reach out to me and tell me a little about this person, and why you think they’re a good fit.

4 I’ll likely respond with “awesome! could you put them in touch with me so we can have a quick conversation”?

5 You’ll either have them text me, or set us up with a three-way text. I’ll take it from there.

6 In that conversation, I typically ask people about their “origin story” (how did you find yourself wanting a type of open sexuality), and I’ll answer any questions about the parties. While it does serve as a “vetting” conversation, I try my best to make them feel at ease, and not like they’re being interviewed for a job. Typically your endorsement is enough for me to give them the green light.

7 After that conversation, I’ll send them the link to get on the mailing list & Telegram groups, as well as tell them any details they need to know about the upcoming party and how to RSVP.

Due to the nature of these parties, it’s not always easy to communicate when something doesn’t go well. While I encourage folks to have direct conversations whenever possible, sometimes it’s useful to have a 3rd party or even to report something anonymously.

This form is for that kind of reporting.
https://forms.gle/uicH8MHbyfKvnr6F6

This is an important topic, and I’d like to take a minute to explain my thought process around running sex parties and money. I started off running these parties with no money exchange. I fundamentally believe that offering these parties is a gift to the community, and I’m not personally interested in turning it into a business (not that there’s anything wrong with people who do).

Over the years I started asking for $20, mostly because space was limited and I needed an accurate head count. The money would also help with buying snacks and hiring the occasional house cleaner. For bigger parties with a budget (Roman Orgy, etc…) I ask for more (typically $60-120) and that typically covers costs, plus leaves a small surplus. Currently for evening parties I’ve decided to charge $20-40 and provide all the food, including a dope midnight snack and breakfast the morning after for anyone who sleeps over.

As kinky as this might sound, I believe communities like this should operate in the same way an ethical organized religion does, which is to say that no one should be getting rich, and the incentives should be carefully examined so we don’t take advantage of the potent medicine that is community and belonging. The parties I run often have a surplus of money, and I hold it similarly to a not-for-profit, so when people get paid it’s a reasonable compensation for their time.

The last piece of this that’s important is that no one is turned away for lack of funds. If you’re in some kind of financial struggle, I get it. I’ve been there. Let me know and I’ll do whatever I can to waive your contribution, you don’t even have to offset that with helping, unless you want to.

I hope this helps explain my process, and if you have any questions please ask. I’m also happy to share the financials for any of the parties I throw, I typically track the numbers for big events on spreadsheets.

If you don’t know me, you might be thinking — who is this wonderfully articulate and thoughtful, community-minded guy? 😜 It’s a valid question. You are welcome to browse my writing, or just visit my about me section. I started running play parties in 2016 and I’m always available to answer any questions via email at davebooda@gmail.com or text/call at 617-721-2007.