Fighting Against Something Also Supports It

August 31, 2016

I used to want to end the battle of the sexes, then I realized I was fighting a battle to end a war. So I stopped.

I used to want to say “fuck cancer” but then I realized that making cancer wrong was me being part of the problem.

I used to be in the Navy and my ship’s motto was “peace through power”, then I heard George Carlin say “fighting for peace is like fucking for virginity”, and I listened.

I used to get excited when documentaries started with “this is what’s wrong with the world”, then I realized the world is also missing is acceptance.

I used to want to fix people, then I realized I would rather help people see they don’t need to be fixed.

I used to fight against fundamental religious beliefs, then I realized that I was making religion wrong for making others wrong.

I once was lost, and now am found. Twas blind but now I see.

The best way to ensure something continues is to oppose it. Opposition strengthens the defense of your opponent and rallies more people to their cause. Atheists who hate religion make religion stronger. Protestors strengthen the resolve of the people being protested. Red Sox fans who hate the Yankees make more die hard Yankee fans. Jews and Arabs hating each other produces more hate. So on and so on.

There’s only one way out of this endless cycle. Loving people and being the change you want to see. It’s the only solution. No matter how hard it is we’re always capable of loving people exactly the way they are. We might as well love people because thousands of years of human history has proven that nothing else works. It’s the reason leaders like Ghandi, Martin Luther King and Nelson Mandela succeeded. They stopped trying what doesn’t work.

Fighting for peace is like fucking for virginity. Peace is what we had before fighting started, before there was a right and a wrong, before the need to prove ourselves or make others wrong.

Peace is our natural state and it’s not accessible by going to war, it’s only possible when we stop fighting.


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